10 Signs That Show You Are Not In Love

“I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.” – Marilyn Monroe

So you are in a relationship and still wonder, is this love, attachment or just infatuation? You still have many doubts regarding the status of the relationship, right? If this is the case, then you need to do a mental math’s of your relationship and reflect upon certain things that will give you a better clarity whether you are in love or not.

Dating apps can make it easier to find potential partners, but it’s also important to be cautious and take things slowly. Rushing into a relationship without fully understanding your own feelings or your partner’s intentions can lead to heartbreak and disappointment. Hence, It’s important to take the time to evaluate your feelings and ensure that what you’re feeling is genuine love, and not just a rebound. It’s also crucial to have open and honest communication with your partner to ensure that you’re both on the same page about the nature of your relationship and what you both want from it.

Consider aspects such as your emotional connection, physical attraction, future plans, sacrifices, and communication. Reflecting on these factors can give you a better understanding of your feelings and whether you’re truly in love or not. It’s okay to take the time to assess your emotions and the state of your relationship, and it’s better to be honest with yourself and your partner than to force something that isn’t right.

Let’s make it clear that there’s no shame in realising that you’re not in love with someone. In fact, it’s much better to be honest with yourself and your partner than to force yourself into a relationship that isn’t right for you.

So, without further ado, here are ten signs that you might not be in love.

10 signs that show you are not in love

1. You don’t prioritise them in your life

If you’re not willing to make time for someone or put them first, it’s a pretty good sign that you’re not in love with them. Prioritising someone in a relationship can mean different things to different people, but it generally refers to the willingness to make time for someone and to make them a priority in your life. This can include spending quality time together, being emotionally supportive, and making an effort to understand and meet their needs.

2. You’re not interested in their life

If you find yourself zoning out when your partner talks about their day or their interests, it could be a sign that you are away. If you’re struggling to engage with your partner, it’s important to examine the reasons behind your lack of interest. Are there underlying issues in the relationship that are causing you to feel disconnected? Or are you simply not compatible with your partner in terms of your interests and values? If you find that you consistently lack interest in your partner’s life, it may be a sign that the relationship is not fulfilling for you and it may be time to reassess your priorities.

3. You don’t miss your partner when he/she is away

Feeling relieved or indifferent when your partner is away can be a cause for concern if it is a consistent pattern of behaviour. It may be worth examining the reasons behind these feelings and whether they are indicative of underlying issues in the relationship. If you feel relieved when your partner is away or don’t feel any real sense of longing when you’re apart, it’s a sign that you’re not in love with them.

4. You don’t feel jealous or protective of him/ her

While jealousy isn’t always healthy, feeling protective or possessive of your partner can be a sign that you care deeply about them. The deeper the love, the stronger will be the insecurity of losing the person. Hence, jealousy comes naturally. If you don’t feel these emotions, it could be a sign that you’re not in love.

5. You don’t see a future with your partner

We tend to take the relationship further and of course, visualise a future with our partner. If you feel no excitement or motivation to work towards a future together, it may indicate a lack of emotional investment in the relationship.If you can’t imagine a future with your partner or don’t feel excited about the prospect of building a life together, it’s a sign that you’re not in love

6. You’re not physically attracted to your partner

Physical attraction isn’t everything, but it’s an important part of any romantic relationship. Physical attraction is an important aspect of romantic relationships, and if you don’t feel any level of attraction towards your partner, it could be a sign that you don’t have the level of emotional connection that’s necessary for a healthy, loving relationship.If you’re not physically attracted to your partner, it could be a sign that you’re not in love.

7. You’re not emotionally intimate with the person

Without emotional intimacy, it’s challenging to establish a deep, meaningful connection with your partner, and the relationship may feel shallow or surface-level. If you don’t feel comfortable sharing your thoughts and feelings with your partner, it could indicate a lack of trust or a fear of being vulnerable. If you don’t feel comfortable opening up to your partner or sharing your deepest thoughts and feelings, it could be a sign that you’re not in love.

8. You’re not willing to make sacrifices for the person

Love often involves sacrifice, whether it’s giving up a job opportunity to stay in the same city as your partner or spending less money so you can save for a future together. Sacrifices are an essential part of any loving relationship. They demonstrate that you are willing to prioritise your partner’s needs and well-being above your own. Sacrifices can take many forms, from making time for your partner when you would rather be doing something else, to making significant life changes to accommodate your partner’s needs. If you’re not willing to make sacrifices for your partner, it’s a sign that you’re not in love.

9. You’re not happy when you’re together

While no relationship is perfect, being in love should make you happy and fulfilled. Feeling happy and fulfilled in the presence of your partner is an essential aspect of being in love. When you’re in love, being around your partner should bring you joy and happiness, and you should feel comfortable being yourself around them. This could be because you don’t feel comfortable around them or because you’re not genuinely interested in their company. If you’re not happy when you’re with your partner, it’s a sign that you’re not in love.

10. You’re not willing to work through problems

Working through problems and compromising with your partner is an important aspect of any healthy relationship. When you’re in love, you’re willing to put in the effort to overcome challenges and make things work. All relationships have their ups and downs, but if you’re not willing to work through problems or compromise with your partner, it’s a sign that you’re not in love. This could be because you don’t value the relationship enough to put in the effort, or because you don’t see a future with your partner.

Final word

Love is an intricate and multifaceted emotion that can be challenging to decipher. It’s not always easy to tell if what you’re feeling is genuine love or simply an infatuation or sense of comfort with someone. Love involves a range of emotions, including affection, attraction, intimacy, and commitment, which can all manifest differently in different relationships. Therefore, it’s essential to take the time to reflect on your feelings and assess the state of your relationship to determine if what you’re experiencing is true love or something else entirely.

In today’s social scenario, where love comes handy on dating apps, reaffirming whether it’s genuine love or not becomes imperative before committing. The rising number of breakups, puts on tenterhooks, as insecurity comes as a package with a newly found relationship. This insecurity is higher if one has found love once again after a brutal break up. Hence, it’s a kind of thinking twice before taking the dive!

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” – Lao Tzu

Call us to book a session today.

Contact us at +91 9811335150

Email us – info@onlinecounselling4u.com

Follow us on Facebook or Instagram